We think we want life to be fair, but in reality, we don’t. What we actually desire is an easy, comfortable life—one free from pain and drama.

We assume we want a fair life because that would mean achieving those things. But if the fairness of life were drawn from our actions, the opposite would likely happen.

Sometimes I think, speak, and act with kindness, but not as often as I should. Sometimes, I am generous with my time, talents, and money, but not as often as I have the opportunity to be.

If the circumstances life brought me were based on fairness—on getting out of the world what I actually offered to it—I would be on the wrong side of the ledger more often than the right.

We may think we want fairness from life, but what we need is grace—to be treated as ones who are loved.

Grace means getting what you don’t deserve:

Kindness for anger
Charity for selfishness
Beauty for ashes

Receiving grace means learning to see yourself with clearer eyes. Imperfect in many ways, but still worthy of love and affection.

When we develop this ability, we concern ourselves less with what is fair and more with appreciating what is.